Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Negotiation: Connecting To Another Soul

By Celso Cukierkorn


When Moses does not return when expected from Mount Sinai, the people make a golden calf and worship it. G-d purposes to destroy the errant nation, but Moses negotiates on their behalf.

As I have said in my book, Secrets of Jewish Wealth Revealed, there is no question that we the Jewish People know how to negotiate.

The ability that we Jews have to negotiate surpasses that of any other people in the world. Most people believe that they don't really need negotiating skills. What those people are not taking into consideration is that every interaction you have had in the past and will have in the future is a negotiation. The fact that you are not consciously negotiating those interactions now means that you have lost every one.

Around the world, negotiating is seen as normal part of daily life and a common practice. How often have I seen a tourist overpaying for a souvenir to the surprise of the street vendor. People are used to paying what they are asked.

Like her, many people feel embarrassed to negotiate. However, that is foolish because you work hard for your money, so failing to negotiate is like lowering your wages.

One of the rules of negotiating is that it should be done face to face whenever possible. For example, if I make an offer on a house, I want go along with the realtor to present the offer to the owner in person.

You need to have a grip on the negotiation and be the one in charge if you want to succeed in this give and take process.

Another negotiating secret is to be flexible and always know when to walk away. If you're more interested in buying than the seller is in selling, you won't win.

In the bible, the act of negotiation is more usual than Prayer. Don't forget that many people in the scriptures were great negotiators. Lot negotiated on behalf of the Three Angels, and Moses negotiated with God (over and over again) on behalf of the Israelites. So did Abraham. If they could negotiate, why shouldn't we?




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